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Gaslighting: What it really is and how to address it
  + stars: | 2023-08-07 | by ( Kristen Rogers | ) edition.cnn.com   time to read: +9 min
The concept of gaslighting originated from the 1944 film “Gaslight” and the 1938 play on which it was based. Signs you’re being gaslitThere are other common misconceptions about the nature of gaslighting, experts said. What pushes these behaviors into gaslighting territory has to do with what the person you’re dealing with says and their intentions behind it. The degree to which a person gaslights someone else can vary, but gaslighting is always emotional abuse, whether intentional or not, experts said. Talking to a therapist can help you get an objective perspective and see more clearly any signs of gaslighting behavior and psychological abuse, Kennedy said.
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If someone says any of these nine toxic phrases to you, be careful — they may be gaslighting you:1. "I don't feel comfortable doing this. How to respond: "I appreciate that you love me, but I'm not okay with the way you're talking to me." A gaslighter may try to accuse you of harmful actions even if there's clear evidence that they're engaging in similar behaviors. How to respond: "I'm sure that I contribute to our relationship struggles in some ways, but so do you.
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The world is filled with toxic people, and working with them is a pain. So when I find someone hard to get along with or who displays behavior I can't explain, I get away quickly. WithholdersWithholders are unable to deliver praise or feel happy when someone else steps up and contributes to a group success. They resent anyone who possesses skills they don't have or who doesn't feel the same self-loathing that they are plagued with. They don't feel entitled to success, so they're thrilled and thankful when it arrives.
NYU psychology professor Tessa West said there are 4 common types of toxic coworkers. In her book, "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them," NYU psychology professor Tessa West lays out some of the most common archetypes of toxic coworkers and then offers strategies for confronting them and taking back your peace of mind. They go to the boss' boss," West said. The gaslighterPerhaps the most sinister of toxic coworkers, the gaslighter, deceives you on a grand scale — often by creating an alternative reality. People unknowingly gaslit may perpetuate or protect their toxic coworker's dishonesty or theft at work.
After all, if you can't take someone at their word, how can you form a relationship with them? Here are three red flags that indicate your partner might be the gaslighting type. Ask yourself, "Are they the type of person that someone would come to if they had a moment of vulnerability?" Do they use "blaming" words? If this is feedback they've received a few times, it's something you should pay attention to, Larkin says.
As a person who writes about honesty and deception, I felt a spark of hope Monday when I found out that Merriam-Webster had made “gaslighting” the official word of the year for 2022. We have to engage with issues like gaslighting, including all the ugliness of the ways it’s been done in the past and the ways it’s still happening today. Gaslighting, as Merriam-Webster defines it, is “the act or practice of grossly misleading someone especially for one’s own advantage.” Our friends at the dictionary choose every year’s word based solely on data: This year saw a 1,740% increase in lookups on Merriam-Webster’s site for the term gaslighting. So while gaslighting is very 2022, it also could have been the word of the year many times before now — indeed, in nearly every period of American history. If we all did this, maybe the word of the year for 2023 would be self-awareness.
This edition of Insider's work-advice column is about how to deal with a boss who's gaslighting you. He's gaslighting me about my performance, and I worry he's building a case to eventually try to fire me. And because we work in a very transparent and data-heavy organization, I can prove that he's wrong. Or, he could double down on the gaslighting behaviors, in which case you need to fashion an exit strategy, stat. Do your best to reduce direct contact with your boss — and take detailed notes on the meetings you do have.
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