This is known as child-focused parenting, a style devised in the 90s that has become the norm in the last decade. Gaskins isn't the only psychology professional against child-focused parenting. Ironically, child-focused parenting teaches kids that it's normal to forego your identity and boundaries. AdvertisementInstead of being prepared for adult life, "the child's world is completely separated from the adult world," Doucleff said. Woo, who teaches at UC Irvine, said she's witnessed the lasting effects of child-focused parenting.

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