She did this by sometimes saying so directly, but also demonstrated it by rarely referencing her relationship with Adam at all. The same unspoken code didn't apply to me, with her making generous references to admiring our "primary relationship." AdvertisementI became close to my partner's girlfriend, LeahWhen it came to everything but the man we "shared," we were almost compulsively forthcoming. We dished about sex (except sex with Adam) in the kind of detail I'd seen on "Sex and the City." It remained easy for me to find dates or sex as a woman in an open relationship.

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Persons: Adam, Leah, pragmatically, deferential, I'd, didn't, he'd, wasn't, Rachel Krantz Organizations: Service, Harmony Books, Random, Penguin Random Locations: United States, New York