Since they assume that no one else will look out for them, they place their own interests first and last. A rarity in the workplace, according to Grant, their style is more typical of the way we treat family and friends. Givers pay it forwardIn any given field, you'll find givers near the top of their career ladder. "Successful givers are every bit as ambitious as takers and matchers," Grant writes in his book. In short, it's important to distinguish between passive giving and negotiated giving: Passive givers are giving in to avoid conflict, en route to stunted deals and lowered expectations.

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