There are other ways to help children become independent, resourceful, caring people who can handle life's ups and downs and thrive. Ask yourself: "Can my child handle this challenge?" Instead, help your child accept hard feelings by reiterating that all feelings are normal and they're loved no matter what. When you're harsh with your child, they learn to use the same tactics to get what they want or need. Tovah P. Klein, PhD, is a psychology professor at Barnard College and the director of Barnard's Center for Toddler Development.

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