"When you're doing 'I statements' you're being careful to acknowledge the fact that the other person could see things differently," she says.
"That's why they are so powerful and a very effective communication strategy that can reduce the possibility of a courageous conversation turning into an unproductive conflict."
When a partner upsets you , it's natural to want to point out which of their actions you took issue with.
In fact, there are plenty of "I statements" that still put the blame on the other person, Bobby says.
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