No matter which way I went, my first step was always met with: "You never know where you're going."
Despite being close friends, I couldn't bring myself to tell her that the jab made me feel incompetent.
"And sometimes when people feel shame they do buy into the notion that they are flawed in some way."
"Hurt feelings [can] elicit aggression, but I think hidden in there is this sense of being rejected and being found wanting," Tangney says.
Even though having your feelings hurt is a universal experience, telling someone that what they said upset you can feel singularly embarrassing, says Judy Ho, a neuropsychologist and professor at Pepperdine University.
Persons:
Tangney, that's, Judy Ho, Ho
Organizations:
George Mason University, Pepperdine University