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Reclaim perfectionism by being more of who you are
  + stars: | 2023-09-08 | by ( Faye Chiu | Jessica Dulong | ) edition.cnn.com   time to read: +10 min
Eric Michael PearsonPsychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler rejects that approach, upending the whole notion that perfectionism is something to overcome. She says it’s time to reclaim the term perfectionist along with all the advantages brought by an insatiable desire to excel. Schafler: Perfectionism is a natural impulse that’s unique to humans. Reclaim perfectionism so you can lead a fully realized life, advised Schafler, author of "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Power and Peace." The goal is to harness the power of perfectionism to help and heal you.
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"You may also struggle with feelings of shame and guilt, as you have limited control over your responses to emotionally demanding situations," writes Hamdani, who has ADHD herself. Living with ADHD can make it difficult to regulate your mental and emotional health. Often, "due to emotional dysregulation, you struggle with feelings that seem bigger, more intense, and harder to control," writes psychiatrist Dr. Sasha Hamdani in her book, " Self-Care for People with ADHD ." Hamdani's book has over 100 suggestions for people with ADHD to re-charge and manage stress. Focus on gratitudeAppreciating what you have is "a foolproof way to become more connected with positive emotions, to handle adversity, and to cultivate healthy relationships," Hamdani writes.
Persons: Dr, Sasha Hamdani, Barack Obama, Hamdani, Morgan Schafler, Journaling, Deepak Chopra, Kabir Sehgal Organizations: Centers for Disease Control, New York Times
If you resolved to form a new habit — or break a bad one — this year, it's likely you've already abandoned the task. You're also setting yourself up for failure, says Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and author of "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control." While this framing makes it easier to enact change in the short term, it also makes sustaining change harder in the long term. One way to give a new habit more staying power is to treat change like a multi-step process, Schafler says. Instead of seeing change as one, sweeping motion, Schafler suggests using the five-stage model of change developed by researchers James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente.
A mistake at work, for example, could result is some pretty negative self-talk or actions, like depriving yourself of a snack later that day. In other words, you're punishing yourself. "Punishment doesn't work," she writes in her book. "When you punish someone, that person doesn't learn how to change; they learn how to avoid the source of the punishment." If you are the source of your own punishment then you learn to avoid yourself.
For example, you could be a messy perfectionist when it comes to dating and an intense perfectionist at work. Left unchecked, their standards can go from high to impossible, and they can be punitive with others and themselves for not meeting their standards. Left unchecked, their desire to connect to others can metastasize into toxic people-pleasing. Left unchecked, their preparative measures hit a point of diminishing returns, resulting in indecisiveness and inaction. Left unchecked, they struggle to stay focused on their goals, ultimately spreading their energy too thin to follow through on their commitments.
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